This being Saturday and all, I thought I’d relax and do some Facebook stalking. Among all the usual Saturday-esque posts, one of them stood out to me. This post said something like “People hurt you so many times. When do you really get over it?”
These types of posts give me pause because it seems like whenever someone throws an update like that into Facebook Land she is fishing for some sympathy. To make it more annoying she is vague about what the actual problem is. That’s the worst. At least give us what we really want to know up front, which is a concrete example of why we should feel better about ourselves in comparison to you. I laugh when people comment on such updates with “what’s wrong?” or “what happened?” because it’s a little obvious they really don’t care but are dying to know the scoop.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen plenty of rather detailed Woe-is-Me status updates too. Custody battles, work issues, divorce proceedings, and so forth. I once saw a guy who I know from high school have a total breakdown on Facebook - from what I could tell by his status updates, his fiance broke off the engagement, he got into a fight with his fiance’s sister, went to re-hab and moved to a new state all within a 1 month timeframe. Mind you, I barely know the guy but I followed his entire failed relationship thanks to his eagerness to share his pain with the world.
Whether annoyingly vague or painfully specific, why do people think Facebook is the place to talk about their drama? I guess it’s the same thing as the people who, when asked by a casual acquaintance, “How are you doing?” tell you how they’re actually doing as opposed to the expected polite and quick response of “Good, and you?”
Maybe I’m just insensitive because when someone is trying to make me feel sorry for them via their Facebook status update it tends to have the opposite effect. There are so many other ways to deal with your issues, you know? Therapy is a beautiful thing.
In response to the person asking the Facebook community when will she get over it…I don’t know, but maybe if you tried a healthier way to deal with your shit and not talk about it on Facebook then you’d find it easier to get over.